It's true.
I'm a total and complete control and planning freak. I have planned every detail of this wedding (literally) down to the minute! Cake is ready, dress is steamed, shoes are bought, jewelry is laid out, everything is DONE! Then of course there is ONE thing that I cannot control. The weather. As of right now there is a 20% chance of rain, 16 MPH winds, and partly cloudy. So I say.....
God,
I know you have a universe to run and all. However-we should getting something straight. I have prided myself in NOT being a Bridezilla and NOT crying and being emotional about stupid details. However they don't write a freaking book about how the last 8 days before your wedding you get emotional and sentimental and cry alot. So I am asking you VERY nicely.......DO NOT LET THERE BE RAIN OR HIGH WINDS ON MY WEDDING DAY! At least while we are outside taking pictures. And don't think that I'm kidding in this request....I"M NOT! Amen.....
This is going to be a LONG week......
Friday, June 17, 2011
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Always Faithful
2 weeks ago I was wondering how I was going to get thru finals.
This past week I was wondering if I would ever stop crying-if I was going to be able to catch a break.
My brother showed up on Monday evening with news that he was going to join the military. I could have strangled him. Now, don't take this as I am not thankful for the men and women and their families who sacrifice themselves for my freedom and to keep my country safe, I just don't want it to be my brother. I cried so much and so hard that night I didn't think I was going to be able to get it under control. But true to form, Andrew came in and very gently explained everything to me. It didn't make it better-in fact he even made me watch a documentary about where he thought he would end up-that REALLY didn't make it better. But it was in that moment that I saw (for the first time) the beginnings of my little brother becoming a man. I never thought that this day would come.....the day that my brother-the one who got in trouble WITH me, who pulled practical jokes with me, who stood up for me, who even beat someone up for me one time-the day he would be all grown up.
Hit #1
Wednesday he left-he was going home to take a test for the military. I got a phone call about the time he should have been getting home that he had been in a car accident. A semi had run his car off the road and he had hydroplaned into the ditch. He was fine-but his car was totaled. I of course began to freak. But after a couple hours he called me and said things were just fine.
Hit #2
Thursday my Dad called. I don't know what it is about my family but they ALWAYS call me with bad news while I am driving. It's like they just know I am going to have to pull over and spend 20 minutes on the side of the road getting myself back together. Anyways he was calling to tell me the test results from tests he had run earlier in the week. He had been diagnosed with FSGS. It's a kidney disease and there are varying levels of severity. He of course very quickly followed it up with "I'm going to beat this". Great.
Hit #3
I spent all day on Thursday eating my feelings. I'm really good at that. I cried. I read. I cried some more. I just couldn't get my head around why all of these things were happening and all at once.
I then stumbled across a couple quotes on my computer- "Everyone is fighting their own battle- To be free from their past. To live in their present. And to create their own future. So have heart". the other one was "In the world of always changing and always going. A shifting world of uncertainty. You can be sure of one thing. The God of the Universe who called you by name is NEVER CHANGING. ALWAYS constant. & will NEVER let you go.
Take heart friends.....we have a God who is always faithful.....never changing.....always constant......no matter how many hits we get. So stand strong. Have heart. Push forward.
This past week I was wondering if I would ever stop crying-if I was going to be able to catch a break.
My brother showed up on Monday evening with news that he was going to join the military. I could have strangled him. Now, don't take this as I am not thankful for the men and women and their families who sacrifice themselves for my freedom and to keep my country safe, I just don't want it to be my brother. I cried so much and so hard that night I didn't think I was going to be able to get it under control. But true to form, Andrew came in and very gently explained everything to me. It didn't make it better-in fact he even made me watch a documentary about where he thought he would end up-that REALLY didn't make it better. But it was in that moment that I saw (for the first time) the beginnings of my little brother becoming a man. I never thought that this day would come.....the day that my brother-the one who got in trouble WITH me, who pulled practical jokes with me, who stood up for me, who even beat someone up for me one time-the day he would be all grown up.
Hit #1
Wednesday he left-he was going home to take a test for the military. I got a phone call about the time he should have been getting home that he had been in a car accident. A semi had run his car off the road and he had hydroplaned into the ditch. He was fine-but his car was totaled. I of course began to freak. But after a couple hours he called me and said things were just fine.
Hit #2
Thursday my Dad called. I don't know what it is about my family but they ALWAYS call me with bad news while I am driving. It's like they just know I am going to have to pull over and spend 20 minutes on the side of the road getting myself back together. Anyways he was calling to tell me the test results from tests he had run earlier in the week. He had been diagnosed with FSGS. It's a kidney disease and there are varying levels of severity. He of course very quickly followed it up with "I'm going to beat this". Great.
Hit #3
I spent all day on Thursday eating my feelings. I'm really good at that. I cried. I read. I cried some more. I just couldn't get my head around why all of these things were happening and all at once.
I then stumbled across a couple quotes on my computer- "Everyone is fighting their own battle- To be free from their past. To live in their present. And to create their own future. So have heart". the other one was "In the world of always changing and always going. A shifting world of uncertainty. You can be sure of one thing. The God of the Universe who called you by name is NEVER CHANGING. ALWAYS constant. & will NEVER let you go.
Take heart friends.....we have a God who is always faithful.....never changing.....always constant......no matter how many hits we get. So stand strong. Have heart. Push forward.
Friday, May 6, 2011
3 down 1 to go....
I never thought in a million years this day would come. I can now officially say that I am a college senior. Yes, I did say a SENIOR. Holy crap that sounds strange to say.
Hi, my name is Kaitlin and I am a senior in college.
Yep....totally creepy.
I got out of my last final today at 11:00. I got into my car and sat there staring at the back of the Smith building. By this time next year, I will be a mere 48 hours away from walking across the stage at College Church. It's been a long hard road. Lots of tears, stress, and late nights have lead up to this point, and I am proud to say that I finally made it. I overcame that which was the most difficult for me.
There have been alot of people who have contributed to me getting this far-they know who they are. But...just in case they didn't know this-I love you all. You have been a constant source of strength and encouragement for me and for that I am truly grateful.
MidAmerica was once a dream I was chasing-now....it's becoming the end of one of the best chapters in my life.....
Hi, my name is Kaitlin and I am a senior in college.
Yep....totally creepy.
I got out of my last final today at 11:00. I got into my car and sat there staring at the back of the Smith building. By this time next year, I will be a mere 48 hours away from walking across the stage at College Church. It's been a long hard road. Lots of tears, stress, and late nights have lead up to this point, and I am proud to say that I finally made it. I overcame that which was the most difficult for me.
There have been alot of people who have contributed to me getting this far-they know who they are. But...just in case they didn't know this-I love you all. You have been a constant source of strength and encouragement for me and for that I am truly grateful.
MidAmerica was once a dream I was chasing-now....it's becoming the end of one of the best chapters in my life.....
Monday, April 25, 2011
A new beginning
Beginnings-they are always exciting-and sometimes scary too. But this one for us has been ALOT of fun! After about a solid week of late nights, lots of stress, and a million boxes-our HOME is finally put together! Well, minus the bed frame and the headboard-that will get done this weekend. I'll be staying here until the wedding and then Thomas is going to be moving in after we get back from our honeymoon in San Diego. It's a GREAT place and we love it so much! Enjoy the pictures! :)
Monday, April 18, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 10 91-99
Your New Staff Member Already Attends Your Church (91): Hire from the inside! By doing this you are getting people who already know your vision, mission, and what you stand for. They love what the church is trying to do and they are respected by others in the church.
Put Your Money Where Your Crowd Is (92): This chapter goes over making sure that the ministries that are making the biggest difference are the ones that are getting the money and resources that it needs. It's ok to not equally distribute money and resources!
Share Critical Knowledge, Even When It Hurts (93): Whenever you have a tough situation you need to communicate it in several ways to your church as well as communicating exactly how you are feeling. However, make sure that you 1) Pick the right crowd. 2) Be honest but not hopeless. 3) Be human. 4) Allow people time to mourn the loss. 5) Get help.
Recruit Constantly (94): Always be recruiting volunteers for your ministry! Make sure that you identify, pray, ask promote, review, and encourage! It is your role as a leader to build teams and plug them into your ministry!
Avoid Creating a "Federation of Subminitries" (95): Make sure that you are staying unified! Make sure that you maintain a common budget, don't allow departmental fundraising, end ineffective minstries. Dismiss ineffective staff or leaders, etc.
Hire an Administrator before you hire a youth pastor (96): Make sure that you have someone to help handle all of the responsibilities that the staff has. By hiring someone to do this it helps to free up the staff to continue being effective in their ministry.
Put this word in your vocabulary: Newness (97): Chapter 97 went over tips on how to keep your church in a newness condition
Study Your Stats (98): Types of measurement in ministry: 1) weekly attendance 2) Weekly offerings 3) weekly attendance and revenue forcasts 4) Spiritual steps (monthly) 5) monthly financial reports 6) quarterly vision statement progress
There are no shortcuts (99): Ministry is hard work. But when you pursue Jesus he is going to lead you in the direction you need to go and he will use you to help transform people's lives.
I believe that it is important to remember that you are "working" for God and that in his ministry there really are no shortcuts. People's lives are at stake. When you keep him at the forefront of the things that you do and your ministry, you are going to be a truly effective leader.
Put Your Money Where Your Crowd Is (92): This chapter goes over making sure that the ministries that are making the biggest difference are the ones that are getting the money and resources that it needs. It's ok to not equally distribute money and resources!
Share Critical Knowledge, Even When It Hurts (93): Whenever you have a tough situation you need to communicate it in several ways to your church as well as communicating exactly how you are feeling. However, make sure that you 1) Pick the right crowd. 2) Be honest but not hopeless. 3) Be human. 4) Allow people time to mourn the loss. 5) Get help.
Recruit Constantly (94): Always be recruiting volunteers for your ministry! Make sure that you identify, pray, ask promote, review, and encourage! It is your role as a leader to build teams and plug them into your ministry!
Avoid Creating a "Federation of Subminitries" (95): Make sure that you are staying unified! Make sure that you maintain a common budget, don't allow departmental fundraising, end ineffective minstries. Dismiss ineffective staff or leaders, etc.
Hire an Administrator before you hire a youth pastor (96): Make sure that you have someone to help handle all of the responsibilities that the staff has. By hiring someone to do this it helps to free up the staff to continue being effective in their ministry.
Put this word in your vocabulary: Newness (97): Chapter 97 went over tips on how to keep your church in a newness condition
Study Your Stats (98): Types of measurement in ministry: 1) weekly attendance 2) Weekly offerings 3) weekly attendance and revenue forcasts 4) Spiritual steps (monthly) 5) monthly financial reports 6) quarterly vision statement progress
There are no shortcuts (99): Ministry is hard work. But when you pursue Jesus he is going to lead you in the direction you need to go and he will use you to help transform people's lives.
I believe that it is important to remember that you are "working" for God and that in his ministry there really are no shortcuts. People's lives are at stake. When you keep him at the forefront of the things that you do and your ministry, you are going to be a truly effective leader.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 9 81-90
Spouses Should Share the Experience (81): The chapter goes over spouses sharing in ministry. Yes they should, but be careful that you aren't always giving all your attention to just church things. Make time for you family as well.
Answer the Phone (82): Always have some kind of answering service or call forwarding available for your church phones. If you aren't able to answer the phones-think about all the things you are missing out on! Promptly respond to the phone calls and voice mails!
Eliminate the Committees and Multiply the Ministry (83): Chapter 83 goes over having teams of people working together rather than having committees. Make sure that people are valued in ministry rather than in your meetings!
Surround Yourself with Learners (84): Add learners to your ministry team! Find people that have a student attitude in 4 areas 1)Students of Scripture 2) Students of leadership 3) Students of culture 4) Students of successful ministries
You can't overcommunicate the vision (85): Communiate your vision! Deliver a weekend series every year that recalls your vision to your church, Use stories to illustrate the impact of the vision, print your mission on your programs or bulletins every week, etc.
Build budgets on purpose (86): Begin budgetting by defining the ministry plan. Ask what you are trying to accomplish, what action steps are being taken, how will the goal help to accomplish the mission and vision, etc.
E-mail can get you in trouble (87): Advantages and disadvantages of email was discussed in this chapter. Avoid email when there is a conflict, when you are mad, when you are hurt by something someone has sent you, etc.
Give volunteers an experience, not just a task (88): Get the best out of your volunteers and their talents by caring for them-build a relationship with them and figure out who they are as a person.
Leave Well (89): When you leave-leave well. Don't discuss issues you have with the church, don't talk negatively to anyone, and don't listen to complaints from people about the church after you have left.
Numbers communicate momentum, and momentum generates numbers (90): Be creative with the way you communicate numbers! This will help you generate more momentum
I have always seen "'spouse ministry" modeled b/c my parents practice this within the context of their marriage. However, I do agree with the chapter when it says that you need to watch how much time you are giving both. There were times growing up that I was (quite frankly) tired of sharing my parents. Then there were other times that I was glad that they were available to people. I came to realize that there is a fine line between church family and "real" family. They both need you. They both need love. And above all-they both need the guidance that you can offer them.
Answer the Phone (82): Always have some kind of answering service or call forwarding available for your church phones. If you aren't able to answer the phones-think about all the things you are missing out on! Promptly respond to the phone calls and voice mails!
Eliminate the Committees and Multiply the Ministry (83): Chapter 83 goes over having teams of people working together rather than having committees. Make sure that people are valued in ministry rather than in your meetings!
Surround Yourself with Learners (84): Add learners to your ministry team! Find people that have a student attitude in 4 areas 1)Students of Scripture 2) Students of leadership 3) Students of culture 4) Students of successful ministries
You can't overcommunicate the vision (85): Communiate your vision! Deliver a weekend series every year that recalls your vision to your church, Use stories to illustrate the impact of the vision, print your mission on your programs or bulletins every week, etc.
Build budgets on purpose (86): Begin budgetting by defining the ministry plan. Ask what you are trying to accomplish, what action steps are being taken, how will the goal help to accomplish the mission and vision, etc.
E-mail can get you in trouble (87): Advantages and disadvantages of email was discussed in this chapter. Avoid email when there is a conflict, when you are mad, when you are hurt by something someone has sent you, etc.
Give volunteers an experience, not just a task (88): Get the best out of your volunteers and their talents by caring for them-build a relationship with them and figure out who they are as a person.
Leave Well (89): When you leave-leave well. Don't discuss issues you have with the church, don't talk negatively to anyone, and don't listen to complaints from people about the church after you have left.
Numbers communicate momentum, and momentum generates numbers (90): Be creative with the way you communicate numbers! This will help you generate more momentum
I have always seen "'spouse ministry" modeled b/c my parents practice this within the context of their marriage. However, I do agree with the chapter when it says that you need to watch how much time you are giving both. There were times growing up that I was (quite frankly) tired of sharing my parents. Then there were other times that I was glad that they were available to people. I came to realize that there is a fine line between church family and "real" family. They both need you. They both need love. And above all-they both need the guidance that you can offer them.
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Blessings....
I've had a pretty rough week. Well....couple weeks to be honest with you. I have had so much going on and so much to do that I haven't been getting alot of sleep-which means I am a real big grump and have gotten so stressed out that I just broke down last night and sobbed for what seemed like hours.
I had to sing this morning for worship team at church. I really didn't want to go. I wanted to sleep. I was in a terrible mood and had no intention of getting out of it. Then......God decided that I needed something & in true form He did it in the best way that could get my attention......music
He never ceases to amaze me......
I had to sing this morning for worship team at church. I really didn't want to go. I wanted to sleep. I was in a terrible mood and had no intention of getting out of it. Then......God decided that I needed something & in true form He did it in the best way that could get my attention......music
He never ceases to amaze me......
Friday, April 1, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 8 71-80
Your web strategy involves more than launching a web site (71): Chapter 71 goes over the advantages of the internet and how you can use it to your advantage.
Teach others what you are learning (72): Chapter 72 talks about the importance of being a teaching church. Even when you are a smaller church-there are always other churches that can benefit from your expertise!
Handle tough situations head-on (73): Chapter 73 goes over a "continuum of care" following 6 steps. 1) Coaching session. 2) Performance review 3) written reprimand 4) formal warning 5) Time off 6) Termination
Partner for the long term (74): When planning for the future-make sure you are able to build long lasting relationships. Follow these steps. 1) you won't need to re-educate your partners each time. 2) you save time. 3) you have opportunities for life-changing ministry 4) the quality of the craftsmanship and service is improved 5) the blame game is minimized
Teach the tithe regularly (75): Tell your people not to give! Bringing a gift to God is apart of your worship. Also have people give personal testimony. You are bound to get better results when you have "regular" people talk about their personal experiences.
Throw a party for the smallest success (76): Get excited about the small things! Give silly gifts, give a sermon, group recognition!
Affinity and diversity can walk hand in hand (77): Chapter 77 talks about diversity and affinity within your ministry team. Diversity helps strengthen your your team and affinity creates a bond that is not easily broken.
Send lots of handwritten notes (78): Chapter 78 talks about the power of words of appreciation. Writing post cards to people each week can have an incredible impact on people. Make it a habit
Reward the person who stops a dead program (79): Reward the people who stop the programs that do not line up with your churches vision or mission. By doing this you are able to focus your energy in other areas that are apart of your vision and mission.
Don't let your board decide how many pencils to purchase (80): Just because your church board has an opinion doesn't mean you have to use and it doesn't mean that they will be upset if you don't ask for their opinion. Remember: the people are the ministers the staff are the ADministers.
Chapter 72 talks about teaching other people what you learn. I saw my Dad implement this into his church when he chose to send some of his staff to different conferences to help them get ideas going for the things they wanted to do in our church that followed the churches vision and mission. While they were not able to do all of the things they wanted to to full scale-they were able to take some of the ideas and put their own spin on it to work with what they need. It worked out great and one of the results was a new children's center complete with a computerized check in/out desk!
Teach others what you are learning (72): Chapter 72 talks about the importance of being a teaching church. Even when you are a smaller church-there are always other churches that can benefit from your expertise!
Handle tough situations head-on (73): Chapter 73 goes over a "continuum of care" following 6 steps. 1) Coaching session. 2) Performance review 3) written reprimand 4) formal warning 5) Time off 6) Termination
Partner for the long term (74): When planning for the future-make sure you are able to build long lasting relationships. Follow these steps. 1) you won't need to re-educate your partners each time. 2) you save time. 3) you have opportunities for life-changing ministry 4) the quality of the craftsmanship and service is improved 5) the blame game is minimized
Teach the tithe regularly (75): Tell your people not to give! Bringing a gift to God is apart of your worship. Also have people give personal testimony. You are bound to get better results when you have "regular" people talk about their personal experiences.
Throw a party for the smallest success (76): Get excited about the small things! Give silly gifts, give a sermon, group recognition!
Affinity and diversity can walk hand in hand (77): Chapter 77 talks about diversity and affinity within your ministry team. Diversity helps strengthen your your team and affinity creates a bond that is not easily broken.
Send lots of handwritten notes (78): Chapter 78 talks about the power of words of appreciation. Writing post cards to people each week can have an incredible impact on people. Make it a habit
Reward the person who stops a dead program (79): Reward the people who stop the programs that do not line up with your churches vision or mission. By doing this you are able to focus your energy in other areas that are apart of your vision and mission.
Don't let your board decide how many pencils to purchase (80): Just because your church board has an opinion doesn't mean you have to use and it doesn't mean that they will be upset if you don't ask for their opinion. Remember: the people are the ministers the staff are the ADministers.
Chapter 72 talks about teaching other people what you learn. I saw my Dad implement this into his church when he chose to send some of his staff to different conferences to help them get ideas going for the things they wanted to do in our church that followed the churches vision and mission. While they were not able to do all of the things they wanted to to full scale-they were able to take some of the ideas and put their own spin on it to work with what they need. It worked out great and one of the results was a new children's center complete with a computerized check in/out desk!
Saturday, March 26, 2011
3 months-it's for the birds
When I was a little girl I remember my Dad saying that the last three months before you get married is always the worst. He said that you would fight over the little stuff, stress about the color of the curtains, and finally figure out that your significant other really doesn't like your chicken salad after all. I always laughed at these examples my Dad gave thinking that it really couldn't ever happen to me. I mean really-fighting over the color of the curtains?? Who in their right mind does that? I'll tell ya who--me....I do that.....Dad was right after all.
The last three months can potentially be worst. Between picking out furniture, kitchen tables, sheets, picture frames, and the color of the flowers on the front porch-it can be down right awful.
Today was one of those days. I move into the place that Thomas and I will call home for the next year (at least) in about three weeks. Like all normal people who haven't had a nice, full sized big kid apartment-we needed furniture. So like all good mid-western people we got into our car and went to the only place in the mid-west that really is one stop shopping for your home!
However-as smart as we were for going-we just as stupid. It's a Saturday and apparently that meant everyone and their dog as well as their 3rd cousins twice removed was there. Thomas briskly sped through NFM with ease and determination-me on the other hand held on tight and praying I wouldn't have a panic attack right there in the middle of the store because of all the people.
After walking around for what seemed like hours, falling in love with a few pieces, Thomas suggests that we go and do what we should have done to begin with-apply for the credit card. Ugh, fantastic-lines, people, and an overly warm Kaitlin. In case you are wondering-not a good combination. To add to the already grumpy mood that was over taking me like the plague, my cell phone starts ringing off the hook and who is it you ask? You guessed it! My FATHER. Good ol' Dad. The man who offered me-no-freely gave without knowledge of the future stressed he had just caused his unsuspecting daughter-advice.
Now-if you know my family at all-you will know that "patience and hang on ONE SECOND" is NOT in our vast vocabulary of words. After being pressed for an answer about dates, hanging up three times, attempting to discuss my personal financial information with a less than thrilled financial counselor, my Father's request was finally answered, the credit card was obtained, and Thomas & sat down and had the FIRST fight of the day.
After what I'm sure was the dumbest most unimportant fight of the century (over how to split up our BIG purchases from our oh so favorite store) we left. Empty handed and with major migraines.
Like a day in the furniture store wasn't enough-Thomas got the best idea ever-yes even better than furniture! A stop at "Golf Galaxy". Yes-a stop at Kaitlin's most hated sports store ever. Not because it's Thomas' favorite store, but because for the life of me I have yet to figure out what in the world is so fantastic about spending an entire day driving a tiny little cart, around a HUGE green, hitting a TINY little ball into a TINY little hole-really? So-off to golf galaxy we went.
After this wonderfully exciting day of overly packed furniture stores, impatient people, grumpy financial counselors, trips to the wonderful golf store, and pointless fights-we were hungry. So off to one of the best Mexican places ever....
Dinner was divine-chips, salsa, guacamole, cheese dip, rice, beans, enchiladas, and tacos-enough food to kill an elephant-or an iguana-take your pick. We decided to go shopping at the one and only
Now, you are probably asking yourself--"what in the world are these two thinking? They just spent hours in a furniture store only to walk out with nothing but a headache. Why are they going shopping.....again?" I'll answer that question for you. Because we are STUPID that's why!
We walked out of Target with yet again ANOTHER headache and pissed off at the other because (of all things) Thomas wouldn't go with me to look at shorts. SHORTS! Seriously???!!!!
After getting back in my car, yelling at each other for a few minutes. We continue on with out evening by seeing....
After a movie, a cup of Bryer's Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream, and a still irritated Kaitlin-we got into our car to go back to my place.
Now, at this point I should probably tell you all that Thomas knew he probably should have just come along and looked at the dumb shorts and he knew that I was upset still-so he said he was sorry. But in a not so normal way. Instead of saying "sorry" he decides to play the song "I'm sorry" by Brenda Lee. For those of you who are not familiar with this song....let me just let you read what made the entire stressful day melt away in seconds:
The last three months can potentially be worst. Between picking out furniture, kitchen tables, sheets, picture frames, and the color of the flowers on the front porch-it can be down right awful.
Today was one of those days. I move into the place that Thomas and I will call home for the next year (at least) in about three weeks. Like all normal people who haven't had a nice, full sized big kid apartment-we needed furniture. So like all good mid-western people we got into our car and went to the only place in the mid-west that really is one stop shopping for your home!
However-as smart as we were for going-we just as stupid. It's a Saturday and apparently that meant everyone and their dog as well as their 3rd cousins twice removed was there. Thomas briskly sped through NFM with ease and determination-me on the other hand held on tight and praying I wouldn't have a panic attack right there in the middle of the store because of all the people.
After walking around for what seemed like hours, falling in love with a few pieces, Thomas suggests that we go and do what we should have done to begin with-apply for the credit card. Ugh, fantastic-lines, people, and an overly warm Kaitlin. In case you are wondering-not a good combination. To add to the already grumpy mood that was over taking me like the plague, my cell phone starts ringing off the hook and who is it you ask? You guessed it! My FATHER. Good ol' Dad. The man who offered me-no-freely gave without knowledge of the future stressed he had just caused his unsuspecting daughter-advice.
Now-if you know my family at all-you will know that "patience and hang on ONE SECOND" is NOT in our vast vocabulary of words. After being pressed for an answer about dates, hanging up three times, attempting to discuss my personal financial information with a less than thrilled financial counselor, my Father's request was finally answered, the credit card was obtained, and Thomas & sat down and had the FIRST fight of the day.
After what I'm sure was the dumbest most unimportant fight of the century (over how to split up our BIG purchases from our oh so favorite store) we left. Empty handed and with major migraines.
Like a day in the furniture store wasn't enough-Thomas got the best idea ever-yes even better than furniture! A stop at "Golf Galaxy". Yes-a stop at Kaitlin's most hated sports store ever. Not because it's Thomas' favorite store, but because for the life of me I have yet to figure out what in the world is so fantastic about spending an entire day driving a tiny little cart, around a HUGE green, hitting a TINY little ball into a TINY little hole-really? So-off to golf galaxy we went.
After this wonderfully exciting day of overly packed furniture stores, impatient people, grumpy financial counselors, trips to the wonderful golf store, and pointless fights-we were hungry. So off to one of the best Mexican places ever....
Dinner was divine-chips, salsa, guacamole, cheese dip, rice, beans, enchiladas, and tacos-enough food to kill an elephant-or an iguana-take your pick. We decided to go shopping at the one and only
Now, you are probably asking yourself--"what in the world are these two thinking? They just spent hours in a furniture store only to walk out with nothing but a headache. Why are they going shopping.....again?" I'll answer that question for you. Because we are STUPID that's why!
We walked out of Target with yet again ANOTHER headache and pissed off at the other because (of all things) Thomas wouldn't go with me to look at shorts. SHORTS! Seriously???!!!!
After getting back in my car, yelling at each other for a few minutes. We continue on with out evening by seeing....
After a movie, a cup of Bryer's Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream, and a still irritated Kaitlin-we got into our car to go back to my place.
Now, at this point I should probably tell you all that Thomas knew he probably should have just come along and looked at the dumb shorts and he knew that I was upset still-so he said he was sorry. But in a not so normal way. Instead of saying "sorry" he decides to play the song "I'm sorry" by Brenda Lee. For those of you who are not familiar with this song....let me just let you read what made the entire stressful day melt away in seconds:
I'm sorry, so sorry
That I was such a fool
I didn't know
Love could be so cruel
Oh, oh, oh, oh
Uh-oh
Oh, yes
That I was such a fool
I didn't know
Love could be so cruel
Oh, oh, oh, oh
Uh-oh
Oh, yes
(I'm sorry) I'm sorry
(So sorry) So sorry
Please accept my apology
But love is blind
And I was to blind to see
Oh, oh, oh, oh
Uh-oh
Oh, yes
(So sorry) So sorry
Please accept my apology
But love is blind
And I was to blind to see
Oh, oh, oh, oh
Uh-oh
Oh, yes
The car burst into laughter. I couldn't see straight so I pulled the car over into the McDonald's parking lot. 20 chicken nuggets, 2 cheeseburgers, and a red box later-the stupid, pointless fight was over.
I guess I say all of this to finally get to this point.
I'm not sure where all of you are in your relationships. Some of you are right where we are, some of you have been married for a hundred years, and some of you aren't anywhere close to being at this point. But no matter where you are, how you feel, how wrong you think the other person is, or how stressed out you get-remember this.
You don't say "I do but I don't"
The person you are with isn't perfect-but they are perfect for YOU.
And above all....
Life is too short to always be serious.
Live.
Laugh.
Love.
Smile.
Breathe deep
Calm down
Enjoy the ride.
Friday, March 25, 2011
My Friends
"A good friend is like a bra-ready to push you up and be supportive."
I have been so blessed in my life to be surrounded by an amazing group of people that I have the privilege to call my friends....no....friends isn't a good enough word. These people have become my family. This year my "family" pool began to get much larger as new people were brought into this group.
Today I sat in Campus Center-just like I do everyday of the week-and began to look around the table. I had to smile when I began to realize how much I care about each of the people who were sitting around the table and how much I have learned from each of them.
From Chelsea I have learned to look at the bigger picture-the situation might not always be what you think it is.
From Bethany I have learned to be quiet and observe-but still have an opinion and offer it when it is necessary.
From Kent I have learned when to be funny-but when to be serious and to stand up for yourself or others.
From Cody I have learned when to offer advice-even if it isn't always serious.
From Andy I have learned to not take life seriously. It's better to laugh everyday than be sad all the time.
I thought to myself how incredibly blessed we have all been to have found the others. How much richer our lives have become-how much stronger our support system is. I began to think about what if something happened to any of us-who would we call? I soon realized that one of those people would be the first that we would call-we have become that kind of family for each other.
We have held each other when we needed to cry.
Vented to each other when we didn't know what to do.
Corrected each other when we were wrong.
Fought for each other when we were attacked.
Stood together when we were mourning.
Celebrated accomplishments-and even our failures.
Laughed when we didn't think we could.
And faced life head on-even in the small things.
I have been so blessed to have these special people in my life-and today I just want to say thank you-thanks for loving me...even though you know me. You all really are great "bras"!
I have been so blessed in my life to be surrounded by an amazing group of people that I have the privilege to call my friends....no....friends isn't a good enough word. These people have become my family. This year my "family" pool began to get much larger as new people were brought into this group.
Today I sat in Campus Center-just like I do everyday of the week-and began to look around the table. I had to smile when I began to realize how much I care about each of the people who were sitting around the table and how much I have learned from each of them.
From Chelsea I have learned to look at the bigger picture-the situation might not always be what you think it is.
From Bethany I have learned to be quiet and observe-but still have an opinion and offer it when it is necessary.
From Kent I have learned when to be funny-but when to be serious and to stand up for yourself or others.
From Cody I have learned when to offer advice-even if it isn't always serious.
From Andy I have learned to not take life seriously. It's better to laugh everyday than be sad all the time.
I thought to myself how incredibly blessed we have all been to have found the others. How much richer our lives have become-how much stronger our support system is. I began to think about what if something happened to any of us-who would we call? I soon realized that one of those people would be the first that we would call-we have become that kind of family for each other.
We have held each other when we needed to cry.
Vented to each other when we didn't know what to do.
Corrected each other when we were wrong.
Fought for each other when we were attacked.
Stood together when we were mourning.
Celebrated accomplishments-and even our failures.
Laughed when we didn't think we could.
And faced life head on-even in the small things.
I have been so blessed to have these special people in my life-and today I just want to say thank you-thanks for loving me...even though you know me. You all really are great "bras"!
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 7-61-70
If you can't pay your employees well, you have too many employees (61): Chapter 61 goes over wages for your staff. The author talks about instead of hiring more staff for your church, you should choose to increase the wage of your staff-that is if it does not put the health of your staff at risk.
Avoid These Classic Communication Blunders (62): The author goes over the 4 communication blunders 1)They communicate too little 2)They communicate too much 3)They communicate to the wrong people 4) They communicate the wrong information. He also talks about the 3 targets groups that you must communicate with 1)Newcomers 2) Staff and key leaders 3)Donors
Don't let the treasurer decide how to spend the money (63): The author discusses in this chapter two very important details about your church. The first was "people who cut the checks and handle the money should never have decision-making authority for purchases made in your church." and the second pertains to personal decisions that get made. "Finances and human resources which are the primary function is to facilitate ministry, not to decide what will or won't happen within the ministry."
Believe the best (64): This chapter goes over what to do if your pastor or a staff member is accused of doing something. The author says to consider the person's character and to evaluate the source. Also make sure that you move quickly thru the discovery phase remember if the phase ends of being fact finding to remove the person immediately.
Create a culture that expects volunteers to do it before staff (65): This chapter states that you should only hire staff when volunteers cannot accomplish what you need done. It is very important to have your church expect volunteers.
Read the Bible and fast company magazine (66): Be up to date on what is going on in the world so that you are able to interact with the people who are not in your church. The author listed some of the books and magazines that they found helpful. The author also stated 2 reasons for secular reading and viewing. The first is that you will learn things that can help your church and the second you will be able to experience what your people are reading and watching.
Your structure should mirror your strategy (67): This chapter goes over the importance of having strategies for your ministries. "Without a process to help people take steps in their faith journey, the church tends to strcuture around programs or the strengths of the senior pastor."
Design the Biggest lobby you think you'll need, then double it (68): Make sure that you let your contractor and architect plan your building for your needs!
Money Management Matters (69): The author goes over 4 important steps to protect your ministry. 1) Designated gifts 2) counting offerings 3) separtion of duties 4) Reconciliation.
Plan for the negative press (70): Have a plan if a major crisis hits your church. The author talks about 4 different things you can do to help in this. 1) Keep a list of reporters 2) Let them know every time something positive is happening at your church 3) Stay tuned in to that reporter 4)When the crisis hits and they call the church, never say, "no comment".
In my experience with having volunteers in your church vs. always relying on staff is: Having volunteers makes programs and "dreams" come true faster! With having several different volunteers, you are getting alot of people who have alot of different skills. This is a great asset for any church! Many talents = REALLY AWESOME PROGRAMMING!
Avoid These Classic Communication Blunders (62): The author goes over the 4 communication blunders 1)They communicate too little 2)They communicate too much 3)They communicate to the wrong people 4) They communicate the wrong information. He also talks about the 3 targets groups that you must communicate with 1)Newcomers 2) Staff and key leaders 3)Donors
Don't let the treasurer decide how to spend the money (63): The author discusses in this chapter two very important details about your church. The first was "people who cut the checks and handle the money should never have decision-making authority for purchases made in your church." and the second pertains to personal decisions that get made. "Finances and human resources which are the primary function is to facilitate ministry, not to decide what will or won't happen within the ministry."
Believe the best (64): This chapter goes over what to do if your pastor or a staff member is accused of doing something. The author says to consider the person's character and to evaluate the source. Also make sure that you move quickly thru the discovery phase remember if the phase ends of being fact finding to remove the person immediately.
Create a culture that expects volunteers to do it before staff (65): This chapter states that you should only hire staff when volunteers cannot accomplish what you need done. It is very important to have your church expect volunteers.
Read the Bible and fast company magazine (66): Be up to date on what is going on in the world so that you are able to interact with the people who are not in your church. The author listed some of the books and magazines that they found helpful. The author also stated 2 reasons for secular reading and viewing. The first is that you will learn things that can help your church and the second you will be able to experience what your people are reading and watching.
Your structure should mirror your strategy (67): This chapter goes over the importance of having strategies for your ministries. "Without a process to help people take steps in their faith journey, the church tends to strcuture around programs or the strengths of the senior pastor."
Design the Biggest lobby you think you'll need, then double it (68): Make sure that you let your contractor and architect plan your building for your needs!
Money Management Matters (69): The author goes over 4 important steps to protect your ministry. 1) Designated gifts 2) counting offerings 3) separtion of duties 4) Reconciliation.
Plan for the negative press (70): Have a plan if a major crisis hits your church. The author talks about 4 different things you can do to help in this. 1) Keep a list of reporters 2) Let them know every time something positive is happening at your church 3) Stay tuned in to that reporter 4)When the crisis hits and they call the church, never say, "no comment".
In my experience with having volunteers in your church vs. always relying on staff is: Having volunteers makes programs and "dreams" come true faster! With having several different volunteers, you are getting alot of people who have alot of different skills. This is a great asset for any church! Many talents = REALLY AWESOME PROGRAMMING!
Timeless
So I haven't written something worthwhile in......too long.
This week has been a crazy week for me. I had a test on Monday & a HUGE presentation on Tuesday-mind you we JUST got back from Spring Break. If those two things weren't enough my weekly to-do list was longer than normal and more detailed than normal. Once again, I would love to thank all my profs for that one. Needless to say my motto for the week has been "Say no to extra stuff". As hard as it has been I have been very successful at staying with this motto and am almost done with my list. However, I've been obsessed with TIME in the midst of all this. Will I have enough? Stay up later to get more done. Maybe an all nighter?
It began to make me think.
Time.
A 4-letter word with such crazy meaning.
Time.
It could mean life or death. A yes or no. Turkey or ham. Late or not.
Thinking of all these things made me stress out even more and so my drive and obsession to get things done began to overrun my entire being. That is, until this morning.
I opened up a devotional that my Mom gave to me a couple weeks ago. So far because of TIME (the little booger) I haven't been able to really get into it. I was looking under the couch for a school book-yes, we keep our books under furniture-and I found it. I had to smile when I opened it and found this:
Wait patiently with me while I bless you. Don't rush into my Presence with time-consciousness gnawing at your mind. I dwell in timelessness: I am, I was, and I always will be. For you, time is a protection; you're a frail creature who can handle only twenty-four hour segments of life. Time can also be a tyrant, ticking away relentlessly in your mind. Learn to master time, or it will be your master. Though you are a time-bound creature, seek to meet Me in timelessness. As you focus on My Presence, the demands of time and tasks will diminish. I will bless you and keep you, making My face shine upon you graciously, giving you Peace.
How often we forget this and go about our daily live thinking nothing of the God who longs to be with us intimately.
Today-my goal is to remember this and to slow down, take a deep breath, & feel and know the Peace of a God who is TIMELESS.
This week has been a crazy week for me. I had a test on Monday & a HUGE presentation on Tuesday-mind you we JUST got back from Spring Break. If those two things weren't enough my weekly to-do list was longer than normal and more detailed than normal. Once again, I would love to thank all my profs for that one. Needless to say my motto for the week has been "Say no to extra stuff". As hard as it has been I have been very successful at staying with this motto and am almost done with my list. However, I've been obsessed with TIME in the midst of all this. Will I have enough? Stay up later to get more done. Maybe an all nighter?
It began to make me think.
Time.
A 4-letter word with such crazy meaning.
Time.
It could mean life or death. A yes or no. Turkey or ham. Late or not.
Thinking of all these things made me stress out even more and so my drive and obsession to get things done began to overrun my entire being. That is, until this morning.
I opened up a devotional that my Mom gave to me a couple weeks ago. So far because of TIME (the little booger) I haven't been able to really get into it. I was looking under the couch for a school book-yes, we keep our books under furniture-and I found it. I had to smile when I opened it and found this:
Wait patiently with me while I bless you. Don't rush into my Presence with time-consciousness gnawing at your mind. I dwell in timelessness: I am, I was, and I always will be. For you, time is a protection; you're a frail creature who can handle only twenty-four hour segments of life. Time can also be a tyrant, ticking away relentlessly in your mind. Learn to master time, or it will be your master. Though you are a time-bound creature, seek to meet Me in timelessness. As you focus on My Presence, the demands of time and tasks will diminish. I will bless you and keep you, making My face shine upon you graciously, giving you Peace.
How often we forget this and go about our daily live thinking nothing of the God who longs to be with us intimately.
Today-my goal is to remember this and to slow down, take a deep breath, & feel and know the Peace of a God who is TIMELESS.
Friday, March 18, 2011
Be prepared
Don't mess with me.
Don't tell me I can't do it.
Don't expect me to fail.
Don't expect me to let you walk on me.
I've been the girl you looked down on. I've been the girl in the corner-ignored. alone. hurting. scared.
I've been the girl you judged.
I've been the girl you've hated because I was different.
I've intimidated you.
I've shocked you.
I've been prepared for people like you my whole life....
But......
Have you been prepared for me?
Don't tell me I can't do it.
Don't expect me to fail.
Don't expect me to let you walk on me.
I've been the girl you looked down on. I've been the girl in the corner-ignored. alone. hurting. scared.
I've been the girl you judged.
I've been the girl you've hated because I was different.
I've intimidated you.
I've shocked you.
I've been prepared for people like you my whole life....
But......
Have you been prepared for me?
Monday, March 14, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 6 51-60
It's easier to hire than fire (51): This chapter went over key components to hiring staff. The 4 points that are crucial to remember during time are 1) Position request 2) Position classification & wage level 3) Interviews & selection 4) Employee orientation.
Take me to your leader (52): Questions to consider when looking for new leaders for your top leadership team.
1) Commitment to Christ 2) Character 3) Conduct 4) Comprehension 5) Capacity 6) Compassion 7) Calling
People give to changed lives (53): The chapter discusses how people "don't focus on constructing buildings" they would rather give to changed lives and the ministry that creates those changed lives.
The low bid may cost more (54): When hiring a contractor-you should consider the following things. 1) Reputation 2) Honesty 3) Affinity 4) Workmanship 5) Ownership. To figure if your candidates have these things-you have to conduct interviews and check references to make sure that their "bid" is the best one.
Attend the innovative church conference every year (55): Being able to go to these conferences helps you, your staff, volunteers, etc. expand their vision and mission for your church as well as learning new things from other people and their experiences.
Read Your Comment Cards (56): Listen to the things that people in your church are saying. Some things are helpful and some are not-but either way-make sure you hear them out!
Bake sales don't pay the water bill (57) Instead of having fundrasiers: encourage your church to make their weekly/monthly tithes and offerings. This helps your people understand biblical stewardship principles.
Your Organizational Structure should change often (58): If you have structure in your church you are able to facilitate ministry. This provides a clear path for your church-it's mission, goals, etc. Change should be apart of your DNA.
Ministry should be fun (59): HAVE FUN! The attitude that you and your staff have will influence the attitudes and cultures of your church. So, have fun with your staff! The happier they are the smoother things will go!
It could take twice as long but shouldn't cost twice as much (60): Simple strategies to keep your project budgets in check. 1) Never start the project until you have received a guaranteed max price from your contractor. 2) Always include a contingency amount over and above your contractor's GMP. 3) Always require that every change order is submitted timely and in writing 4) Always identify and individual who is solely responsible for the project, and make sure your contractor knows who that is.
In the chapter "take me to your leader" I am reminded of how important asking these questions to a potential staff member really is. It is also equally important to ask their spouse the same questions. If the staff member doesn't have a spouse who has the same vision you could meet some serious problems.
Take me to your leader (52): Questions to consider when looking for new leaders for your top leadership team.
1) Commitment to Christ 2) Character 3) Conduct 4) Comprehension 5) Capacity 6) Compassion 7) Calling
People give to changed lives (53): The chapter discusses how people "don't focus on constructing buildings" they would rather give to changed lives and the ministry that creates those changed lives.
The low bid may cost more (54): When hiring a contractor-you should consider the following things. 1) Reputation 2) Honesty 3) Affinity 4) Workmanship 5) Ownership. To figure if your candidates have these things-you have to conduct interviews and check references to make sure that their "bid" is the best one.
Attend the innovative church conference every year (55): Being able to go to these conferences helps you, your staff, volunteers, etc. expand their vision and mission for your church as well as learning new things from other people and their experiences.
Read Your Comment Cards (56): Listen to the things that people in your church are saying. Some things are helpful and some are not-but either way-make sure you hear them out!
Bake sales don't pay the water bill (57) Instead of having fundrasiers: encourage your church to make their weekly/monthly tithes and offerings. This helps your people understand biblical stewardship principles.
Your Organizational Structure should change often (58): If you have structure in your church you are able to facilitate ministry. This provides a clear path for your church-it's mission, goals, etc. Change should be apart of your DNA.
Ministry should be fun (59): HAVE FUN! The attitude that you and your staff have will influence the attitudes and cultures of your church. So, have fun with your staff! The happier they are the smoother things will go!
It could take twice as long but shouldn't cost twice as much (60): Simple strategies to keep your project budgets in check. 1) Never start the project until you have received a guaranteed max price from your contractor. 2) Always include a contingency amount over and above your contractor's GMP. 3) Always require that every change order is submitted timely and in writing 4) Always identify and individual who is solely responsible for the project, and make sure your contractor knows who that is.
In the chapter "take me to your leader" I am reminded of how important asking these questions to a potential staff member really is. It is also equally important to ask their spouse the same questions. If the staff member doesn't have a spouse who has the same vision you could meet some serious problems.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 5 41-50
Keep Budgeting Simple (41): Chapter 41 goes over the budget process. The author lists 5 different points to remember during this process. 1) Start with a schedule 2) Assign responsibility 3) Define your action plan 4) Create simple forms 5) Make as few decisions as possible.
Make "Hellos" Long & "Goodbyes" quick (42): Chapter 42 goes over saying goodbye to staff members. The author recommends not letting the their "leaving process" to take more than 2 weeks. They gave 2 important reasons for this. 1)People who are departing become a magnet for every unhappy person in your church. 2) Departing staff members can no longer dream about the future of your ministry. Pay doesn't have to be taken away after this time but set their final date of work at the church 2 weeks after their notice.
Tell Stories (43): Stories draw people in and are remembered by all. The author gives a few things to consider when you are storytelling. 1) Jesus' primary style of communication was through stories. 2) Tell stories about the changed lives of people in your congregation. 3) Use stories when you are thanking people.
Watch these three lids (44): 3 lids that will prevent a growing church from sustaining growth. 1) Parking. 2) Children. 3)Seats. Every growing church should have someone who is always watching these three lids and looking into the future to find ways to improve upon them.
Most designated Gifts should be turned down (45): As leadership in the church you should establish guidelines that encourage healthy, biblical stewardship and at the same time promoting a unified budget. You shouldn't let the "designated giving" be the driving force of your church.
The Journey is as important as the destination (46): This chapter talked about varying levels of importance in cause and community. The author states that being able to emphasize community can be very difficult. It can sometimes bring hurt and pain or even bitterness.
Focus on Hot Projects (47): This chapter discusses your hot projects and looks at the 5 things you should identify when starting these projects. 1) Vision. 2) Project champion. 3) Deadline. 4) Resources. 5) Measures.
Don't vote on the carpet color (48): Bringing us nonessential issues during a congregation, board, and/or committee vote can be a real pain. If there are not capable people in your church that you trust to make decisions such as picking out the color of new carpet, then you should consider that you may have a leadership problem.
Systems should make life easier (49): "The best systems and procedures help people become more effective and efficient in their ministry roles." When you want to create a new policy within the church you should ask the following two questions. 1) Do we actually need this policy? 2) Does it make life easier for our team?
Put "Professional Cheerleader" on your business card (50): The author poses different questions asking what would happen if the pastor took on the "cheerleader" role as their primary role. The author states that even though you are a preacher, teacher, etc-the role of "cheerleader" is one of the most vital roles in your ministry.
Chapter 42 goes over making your hellos long and your goodbyes short. I have seen first hand how difficult it is to do. One of our youth pastors several years ago took another church assignment. After announcing it to the pastor/board, youth group, and congregation-it took an additional 3 months for them to actually leave. This made it very difficult for them to cut ties with the kids and congregation and vice versa. It also had an effect on the new youth group they were moving too because it was difficult for those kids to start the bonding process with them.
Make "Hellos" Long & "Goodbyes" quick (42): Chapter 42 goes over saying goodbye to staff members. The author recommends not letting the their "leaving process" to take more than 2 weeks. They gave 2 important reasons for this. 1)People who are departing become a magnet for every unhappy person in your church. 2) Departing staff members can no longer dream about the future of your ministry. Pay doesn't have to be taken away after this time but set their final date of work at the church 2 weeks after their notice.
Tell Stories (43): Stories draw people in and are remembered by all. The author gives a few things to consider when you are storytelling. 1) Jesus' primary style of communication was through stories. 2) Tell stories about the changed lives of people in your congregation. 3) Use stories when you are thanking people.
Watch these three lids (44): 3 lids that will prevent a growing church from sustaining growth. 1) Parking. 2) Children. 3)Seats. Every growing church should have someone who is always watching these three lids and looking into the future to find ways to improve upon them.
Most designated Gifts should be turned down (45): As leadership in the church you should establish guidelines that encourage healthy, biblical stewardship and at the same time promoting a unified budget. You shouldn't let the "designated giving" be the driving force of your church.
The Journey is as important as the destination (46): This chapter talked about varying levels of importance in cause and community. The author states that being able to emphasize community can be very difficult. It can sometimes bring hurt and pain or even bitterness.
Focus on Hot Projects (47): This chapter discusses your hot projects and looks at the 5 things you should identify when starting these projects. 1) Vision. 2) Project champion. 3) Deadline. 4) Resources. 5) Measures.
Don't vote on the carpet color (48): Bringing us nonessential issues during a congregation, board, and/or committee vote can be a real pain. If there are not capable people in your church that you trust to make decisions such as picking out the color of new carpet, then you should consider that you may have a leadership problem.
Systems should make life easier (49): "The best systems and procedures help people become more effective and efficient in their ministry roles." When you want to create a new policy within the church you should ask the following two questions. 1) Do we actually need this policy? 2) Does it make life easier for our team?
Put "Professional Cheerleader" on your business card (50): The author poses different questions asking what would happen if the pastor took on the "cheerleader" role as their primary role. The author states that even though you are a preacher, teacher, etc-the role of "cheerleader" is one of the most vital roles in your ministry.
Chapter 42 goes over making your hellos long and your goodbyes short. I have seen first hand how difficult it is to do. One of our youth pastors several years ago took another church assignment. After announcing it to the pastor/board, youth group, and congregation-it took an additional 3 months for them to actually leave. This made it very difficult for them to cut ties with the kids and congregation and vice versa. It also had an effect on the new youth group they were moving too because it was difficult for those kids to start the bonding process with them.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 4
Chapter 31: Send your Bankers Audit Reports and Birthday Cards every year-Get to know the bank that you borrow money from. Treat it as you would an interview of a new employee/staff member. Keep the communication lines open with your bank and keep them posted on how things are going.
Chapter 32: You can't fire volunteers when the construction project stalls- This chapter was about using volunteers for your projects. When you do this though, you need to check their professional references, written agreements, and have accountability systems in place. If not, church leaders will find themselves in trouble.
Chapter 33: Sack the no huddle offense: Have weekly meetings with your staff and get on the same page with them. Include things during your meeting such as updates, evaluations, strategy, planning, decisions, and fun.
Chapter 34: Give your staff cool gifts: Throughout the year give your staff gifts-but BUDGET for them. Build it into your budget, consult your financial advisor, and give the gifts personally!
Chapter 35: Your website today shouldn't be seen tomorrow: Update your website frequently and make it easy to access and navigate. 3 target audiences that will follow your site are 1) people checking out your church. 2) People trying to connect to your church. 3) People who are committed to your church.
Chapter 36: Giving is person-not private: Teach your congregation that while tithing is a personal thing it is not a private thing. You as the pastor/leader should know when people in your church are robbing God of what is his.
Chapter 37: It's easier to tame the lions than prod the turtles: It's important to have people that you work with have a good sense of balance in their work habits. It creates a less stressful and more productive environment.
Chapter 38: Build your church before you build your church: When building a building make sure that it will meet the needs and purposes and that God has not only for your church but also for your community. Make sure you check your motives on why you are building your building as well.
Chapter 39: Deliver the game plan: What is your focus and vision? How is your vision developing?
Chapter 40: When you discover sin in the leadership, don't cover it up: Don't cover up sin in leadership. Follow 3 guidelines 1) The sphere of the individuals influence dictates the scope of the confession 2) If it is a sin that could expose the church to legal action, be sure to get legal counsel 3) Get counsel.
Chapter 32: You can't fire volunteers when the construction project stalls- This chapter was about using volunteers for your projects. When you do this though, you need to check their professional references, written agreements, and have accountability systems in place. If not, church leaders will find themselves in trouble.
Chapter 33: Sack the no huddle offense: Have weekly meetings with your staff and get on the same page with them. Include things during your meeting such as updates, evaluations, strategy, planning, decisions, and fun.
Chapter 34: Give your staff cool gifts: Throughout the year give your staff gifts-but BUDGET for them. Build it into your budget, consult your financial advisor, and give the gifts personally!
Chapter 35: Your website today shouldn't be seen tomorrow: Update your website frequently and make it easy to access and navigate. 3 target audiences that will follow your site are 1) people checking out your church. 2) People trying to connect to your church. 3) People who are committed to your church.
Chapter 36: Giving is person-not private: Teach your congregation that while tithing is a personal thing it is not a private thing. You as the pastor/leader should know when people in your church are robbing God of what is his.
Chapter 37: It's easier to tame the lions than prod the turtles: It's important to have people that you work with have a good sense of balance in their work habits. It creates a less stressful and more productive environment.
Chapter 38: Build your church before you build your church: When building a building make sure that it will meet the needs and purposes and that God has not only for your church but also for your community. Make sure you check your motives on why you are building your building as well.
Chapter 39: Deliver the game plan: What is your focus and vision? How is your vision developing?
Chapter 40: When you discover sin in the leadership, don't cover it up: Don't cover up sin in leadership. Follow 3 guidelines 1) The sphere of the individuals influence dictates the scope of the confession 2) If it is a sin that could expose the church to legal action, be sure to get legal counsel 3) Get counsel.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 3
Chapter 21: Good Stewardship Begins with Good Stewards-In this chapter the author discussed financial stewardship. He talked about how some people want to give to the church but cannot because their hands are tied financially. Others just do not give-he says that until God is the center of their lives they will not fully understand how important it is. Provide different outlets for people to get involved concerning stewardship by using people in your church. Outlets like this could focus on budgeting, debt reduction, tracking spending, and giving.
Chapter 22: Somebody Has to Live and Die for the Database-This chapter focuses on having an effective database that is updated regularly. The author gave 4 things to follow when creating an effective database. 1) Choose a staff person or volunteer to be the database czar. 2) Make decisions about what should be measured. 3) Protect the integrity of the information. 4) Back up your database.
Chapter 23: Let Your Leaders Lead-Chapter 23 discusses how sometimes things within your church outgrow lay led ministries and you must have your leadership staff take over. Let your leaders use their talents and let them implement the strategies.
Chapter 24: You Can Pick Only Two-Size. Quality. Cost. The three things that all people want when building a building or making an addition, but you can only have 2 of these things. The pick is decided by your values. When you decide what is the most important to you, tell your architect and he will decide the rest!
Chapter 25: Nothing is Certain Except Death, Taxes, and Building Campaigns-This chapter just went over building campaigns. The author mentioned a couple companies that can help your church during this time that you are raising the money. The author also talked about the other benefits of building campagins. Vision, teams, and stewardship were the three that he listed and discussed.
Chapter 26: Perception Matters: Perception matters. People always perceive things. The author talks about setting up boundaries that protect you from people and their ideas. He gave different scenarios and explanations saying that it didn't matter what really was happening because people will always have perceptions about what they THINK is happening.
Chapter 27: Use More Bytes and Less Paper- This chapter literally explains itself. Try moving from everything on paper to getting things online.
Chapter 28: Feed Your Construction Workers a Hot Lunch-Get to know the people who are helping build your new building or addition. Feed them and find out who they are, what their family is like, etc. By doing this their job is not a job anymore-they are doing it for FRIENDS.
Chapter 29: Disgruntled Secretaries Drain Dynamic Workers-Once again, this chapter speaks for itself. Try to encourage your administrative assistant but if they continue to have a bad attitude it can reflect negatively on you and so you are going to have to make a choice about them.
Chapter 30: Identify Leaders of Leaders, and then let them Soar- There are 3 types of leaders in your church: doers, leaders of others, and leaders of leaders. Pick out the people who do a great job of leading the leaders that you already have in place. You won't ever have enough paid staff to keep up with the demands of a church but you will have leaders within your church to help you out. It is your job to identify them and help them when you can with whatever you can.
Chapter 31: Send your Bankers Audit Reports and Birthday Cards every year-Get to know the bank that you borrow money from. Treat it as you would an interview of a new employee/staff member. Keep the communication lines open with your bank and keep them posted on how things are going.
I have really enjoyed watching different churches on my district implement "perception rules". Some of the churches have made meeting rooms with large windows in the main office so that the privacy factor is still there, but the accountability part is there as well. Others have placed various rules about trips, counseling sessions, bible studies in homes, etc. They have become very creative with it and it seems like so far their ideas and rules have been received with warmth.
Chapter 22: Somebody Has to Live and Die for the Database-This chapter focuses on having an effective database that is updated regularly. The author gave 4 things to follow when creating an effective database. 1) Choose a staff person or volunteer to be the database czar. 2) Make decisions about what should be measured. 3) Protect the integrity of the information. 4) Back up your database.
Chapter 23: Let Your Leaders Lead-Chapter 23 discusses how sometimes things within your church outgrow lay led ministries and you must have your leadership staff take over. Let your leaders use their talents and let them implement the strategies.
Chapter 24: You Can Pick Only Two-Size. Quality. Cost. The three things that all people want when building a building or making an addition, but you can only have 2 of these things. The pick is decided by your values. When you decide what is the most important to you, tell your architect and he will decide the rest!
Chapter 25: Nothing is Certain Except Death, Taxes, and Building Campaigns-This chapter just went over building campaigns. The author mentioned a couple companies that can help your church during this time that you are raising the money. The author also talked about the other benefits of building campagins. Vision, teams, and stewardship were the three that he listed and discussed.
Chapter 26: Perception Matters: Perception matters. People always perceive things. The author talks about setting up boundaries that protect you from people and their ideas. He gave different scenarios and explanations saying that it didn't matter what really was happening because people will always have perceptions about what they THINK is happening.
Chapter 27: Use More Bytes and Less Paper- This chapter literally explains itself. Try moving from everything on paper to getting things online.
Chapter 28: Feed Your Construction Workers a Hot Lunch-Get to know the people who are helping build your new building or addition. Feed them and find out who they are, what their family is like, etc. By doing this their job is not a job anymore-they are doing it for FRIENDS.
Chapter 29: Disgruntled Secretaries Drain Dynamic Workers-Once again, this chapter speaks for itself. Try to encourage your administrative assistant but if they continue to have a bad attitude it can reflect negatively on you and so you are going to have to make a choice about them.
Chapter 30: Identify Leaders of Leaders, and then let them Soar- There are 3 types of leaders in your church: doers, leaders of others, and leaders of leaders. Pick out the people who do a great job of leading the leaders that you already have in place. You won't ever have enough paid staff to keep up with the demands of a church but you will have leaders within your church to help you out. It is your job to identify them and help them when you can with whatever you can.
Chapter 31: Send your Bankers Audit Reports and Birthday Cards every year-Get to know the bank that you borrow money from. Treat it as you would an interview of a new employee/staff member. Keep the communication lines open with your bank and keep them posted on how things are going.
I have really enjoyed watching different churches on my district implement "perception rules". Some of the churches have made meeting rooms with large windows in the main office so that the privacy factor is still there, but the accountability part is there as well. Others have placed various rules about trips, counseling sessions, bible studies in homes, etc. They have become very creative with it and it seems like so far their ideas and rules have been received with warmth.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
The Defining Moment
I have been thinking alot about defining moments lately. About the things that really make your life-well...come to life. The moments that change the way you think, the way you do things, or completely transforms your life all together.
A couple of my defining moments have been on my mind lately and I have been gently reminded how incredible God is and how FAITHFUL he has been.
I began to think about defining moments in the Bible....
Adam-He got Eve-someone to be WITH him, to complete him, to keep him company because God saw he was alone.
Noah-He got a boat, lots of animals, and a new start-all because he said YES to a crazy request
Moses-He saved a people he didn't even know that he belonged to until he was grown-it all started with murder.
Abraham-He got to keep his son-all because he was going to kill him-a sacrifice-because God told him too and because of his faith, God provided a ram to be put in his son's place. And while we are on the subject of that-look at the parallel between Abraham's story and the story of Jesus Christ being the sacrifice for us.
I could keep going-listing more that I have been having a good time uncovering. But I wanted to highlight 2 people specifically and some of the phrases that seem like their "defining moments".
Let's start with Ruth.
After a really crazy roller coaster ride-or exotic camel ride-you take your pick :-) Ruth, her sister, and Naomi set out to go back to Naomi's homeland. At some point in this trip Orpah decides she just wants to be with her family-after all her husband is dead and there is nothing for her to go to back in Naomi's home land. She leaves-and it's in that moment that one of Ruth's MANY defining moments stick out to me:
The Message: Ruth 1:16-17
But Ruth said, "Don't force me to leave you; don't make me go home. Where you go, I go; and where you live, I'll live. Your people are my people, your God is my god; where you die, I'll die, and that's where I'll be buried, so help me God—not even death itself is going to come between us!"
That is amazing to me! She has already gone thru so much in regards to the death of her husband, brother-in-law, and father-in-law and now she is willing to not only leave her home, her family, etc. all of which she probably won't ever see again-and go to a place she has never been- and even more-refuse to stay when given the opportunity!
Another thing that just amazes me with Ruth is the love story between her and Boaz. It's romantic if you think about. A woman who is a foreigner, gleaning wheat for her mother-in-law, having special treatment given to her by a man she didn't know, all because she gave up her homeland, her family, and chose to stay with her mother-in-law.
She not only gets to marry the guy-but she has a son-Obed-who was the father of Jesse-and Jesse who was the father of King David-who just so happens to be in the family line of Jesus.
I don't think that in her wildest dreams that Ruth-a widow, a stranger in a new land-would have ever thought that she would be so blessed-all because her phrase, her moment, her willingness....all because she said yes.
Another person whose defining moments stick out to me is Esther. Her story has been my favorite for the longest time. Maybe it's the mental pictures that I get when I go read the story, maybe it's the video in my head, maybe it's her courage-who knows-whatever it is though-it's something that just gets to me every time I read the story.
I could probably write a hundred pages on Esther-but here is the short and sweet preview of the story
(My paraphrase of the Message-can it get more paraphrased?!)
Queen Vashti didn't want to be shown off
Makes King Xerxes mad
Throws her out
Needs a new queen
Esther gets chosen
Bad guys enter
Stuff happens
Esther saves the day.
Obviously I'm leaving alot out. If you are heartbroken over this-read it in the book of Esther.
There are so many things that pop out to me about this story-like I said I could write pages-hopefully my profs who read my blog don't get any bright ideas.
But I wanted to point out the couple that I think are really important to me. Keep in mind that some of the adjectives are just my over imagination kicking in.
Esther was an incredibly beautiful woman. The King fell in love with her immediately and made her his queen in place of Vashti. An even longer story short the King had a real jerk of a staff member named Hamen. He hated Esther's Uncle Mordecai and made life real difficult for him. Hamen hated the Jews and wanted them destroyed-an earlier less horrific Holocaust.
Here is the moment that always gets me. Esther finds out about this-all this time her identity has been hidden-the king, Hamen, none of them know that she herself is a Jew. It is in the wise words of her Uncle that her defining moment takes place:
The Message: Esther 4: 12-16
When Hathach told Mordecai what Esther had said, Mordecai sent her this message: "Don't think that just because you live in the king's house you're the one Jew who will get out of this alive. If you persist in staying silent at a time like this, help and deliverance will arrive for the Jews from someplace else; but you and your family will be wiped out. Who knows? Maybe you were made queen for just such a time as this." Esther sent back her answer to Mordecai: "Go and get all the Jews living in Susa together. Fast for me. Don't eat or drink for three days, either day or night. I and my maids will fast with you. If you will do this, I'll go to the king, even though it's forbidden. If I die, I die."
The phrase in there: "Maybe you were made queen for such a time as this".
For such a time as this.
I can just picture it-Esther walking thru an elaborately decorated courtyard, dressed in beautiful clothes, scared out her mind, but walking with confidence and determination knowing that the Lord her God was with her-and that she was the only hope for her people.
The end of story is like all great stories of courage-the bad guy dies, the good guy gets what he deserves, and Esther and her people are free.
If there was ever a question about the faithfulness of God, a question about can lives really be changed by just obeying-by just stepping out in faith-the answer is yes and my proof is in the best selling book of all time.
A couple of my defining moments have been on my mind lately and I have been gently reminded how incredible God is and how FAITHFUL he has been.
I began to think about defining moments in the Bible....
Adam-He got Eve-someone to be WITH him, to complete him, to keep him company because God saw he was alone.
Noah-He got a boat, lots of animals, and a new start-all because he said YES to a crazy request
Moses-He saved a people he didn't even know that he belonged to until he was grown-it all started with murder.
Abraham-He got to keep his son-all because he was going to kill him-a sacrifice-because God told him too and because of his faith, God provided a ram to be put in his son's place. And while we are on the subject of that-look at the parallel between Abraham's story and the story of Jesus Christ being the sacrifice for us.
I could keep going-listing more that I have been having a good time uncovering. But I wanted to highlight 2 people specifically and some of the phrases that seem like their "defining moments".
Let's start with Ruth.
After a really crazy roller coaster ride-or exotic camel ride-you take your pick :-) Ruth, her sister, and Naomi set out to go back to Naomi's homeland. At some point in this trip Orpah decides she just wants to be with her family-after all her husband is dead and there is nothing for her to go to back in Naomi's home land. She leaves-and it's in that moment that one of Ruth's MANY defining moments stick out to me:
The Message: Ruth 1:16-17
But Ruth said, "Don't force me to leave you; don't make me go home. Where you go, I go; and where you live, I'll live. Your people are my people, your God is my god; where you die, I'll die, and that's where I'll be buried, so help me God—not even death itself is going to come between us!"
That is amazing to me! She has already gone thru so much in regards to the death of her husband, brother-in-law, and father-in-law and now she is willing to not only leave her home, her family, etc. all of which she probably won't ever see again-and go to a place she has never been- and even more-refuse to stay when given the opportunity!
Another thing that just amazes me with Ruth is the love story between her and Boaz. It's romantic if you think about. A woman who is a foreigner, gleaning wheat for her mother-in-law, having special treatment given to her by a man she didn't know, all because she gave up her homeland, her family, and chose to stay with her mother-in-law.
She not only gets to marry the guy-but she has a son-Obed-who was the father of Jesse-and Jesse who was the father of King David-who just so happens to be in the family line of Jesus.
I don't think that in her wildest dreams that Ruth-a widow, a stranger in a new land-would have ever thought that she would be so blessed-all because her phrase, her moment, her willingness....all because she said yes.
Another person whose defining moments stick out to me is Esther. Her story has been my favorite for the longest time. Maybe it's the mental pictures that I get when I go read the story, maybe it's the video in my head, maybe it's her courage-who knows-whatever it is though-it's something that just gets to me every time I read the story.
I could probably write a hundred pages on Esther-but here is the short and sweet preview of the story
(My paraphrase of the Message-can it get more paraphrased?!)
Queen Vashti didn't want to be shown off
Makes King Xerxes mad
Throws her out
Needs a new queen
Esther gets chosen
Bad guys enter
Stuff happens
Esther saves the day.
Obviously I'm leaving alot out. If you are heartbroken over this-read it in the book of Esther.
There are so many things that pop out to me about this story-like I said I could write pages-hopefully my profs who read my blog don't get any bright ideas.
But I wanted to point out the couple that I think are really important to me. Keep in mind that some of the adjectives are just my over imagination kicking in.
Esther was an incredibly beautiful woman. The King fell in love with her immediately and made her his queen in place of Vashti. An even longer story short the King had a real jerk of a staff member named Hamen. He hated Esther's Uncle Mordecai and made life real difficult for him. Hamen hated the Jews and wanted them destroyed-an earlier less horrific Holocaust.
Here is the moment that always gets me. Esther finds out about this-all this time her identity has been hidden-the king, Hamen, none of them know that she herself is a Jew. It is in the wise words of her Uncle that her defining moment takes place:
The Message: Esther 4: 12-16
When Hathach told Mordecai what Esther had said, Mordecai sent her this message: "Don't think that just because you live in the king's house you're the one Jew who will get out of this alive. If you persist in staying silent at a time like this, help and deliverance will arrive for the Jews from someplace else; but you and your family will be wiped out. Who knows? Maybe you were made queen for just such a time as this." Esther sent back her answer to Mordecai: "Go and get all the Jews living in Susa together. Fast for me. Don't eat or drink for three days, either day or night. I and my maids will fast with you. If you will do this, I'll go to the king, even though it's forbidden. If I die, I die."
The phrase in there: "Maybe you were made queen for such a time as this".
For such a time as this.
I can just picture it-Esther walking thru an elaborately decorated courtyard, dressed in beautiful clothes, scared out her mind, but walking with confidence and determination knowing that the Lord her God was with her-and that she was the only hope for her people.
The end of story is like all great stories of courage-the bad guy dies, the good guy gets what he deserves, and Esther and her people are free.
If there was ever a question about the faithfulness of God, a question about can lives really be changed by just obeying-by just stepping out in faith-the answer is yes and my proof is in the best selling book of all time.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Snowdays
I am with you in all that you do, even in the menial tasks. I am always aware of you, concerned with every detail of your life. NOTHING escapes my notice- not even the number of hairs on your head. However, your awareness of My Presence falters and flickers; as a result, your life experience feels fragmented. When your focus is broad enough to include Me in your thoughts, you feel safe and complete. When your perception narrows so that problems or details fill your consciousness, you feel empty and incomplete.
Learn to look steadily at Me in all your moments and all your circumstances, Though the world is unstable and in flux, you can experience continuity through your uninterrupted awareness of My presence. Fix your gaze on what is unseen, even as the visible world parades before your eyes!
It's snowing....again.....
On days like this I enjoy just curling up under my feather blankets and think about all sorts of things. I was re-reading some of my previous blog posts and the above portion really stuck out to me.
Lately I have been feeling really overwhelmed, stressed, angry, irritated....well you all get the idea. I found great comfort in these words. I was reminded that lately the reason things have been getting to me is because I have not fixed my gaze on Christ-my awareness of his presence "falters and flickers" and as a result the saying "I try to take one day at a time, but lately several days have attacked me at once" becomes my reality. I have never been a huge fan of constantly unstable conditions or situations-I'm a slight control freak....ok....I am a MAJOR control freak. When I read this though, I am reminded that life would be a little bit easier if I would just fix my eyes on what is important, that if I just kept Christ with me in all of my moments-things wouldn't be attacking me and dragging me down.
So today as the storm rages outside, the snow piles up, and prayers across the campus are sent up that MNU miraculously will cancel class for a 2nd day in a row, I am comforted with the reminder that even when my faith falters and flickers.....HE is always aware of me and I will always be able to experience HIM.
Learn to look steadily at Me in all your moments and all your circumstances, Though the world is unstable and in flux, you can experience continuity through your uninterrupted awareness of My presence. Fix your gaze on what is unseen, even as the visible world parades before your eyes!
It's snowing....again.....
On days like this I enjoy just curling up under my feather blankets and think about all sorts of things. I was re-reading some of my previous blog posts and the above portion really stuck out to me.
Lately I have been feeling really overwhelmed, stressed, angry, irritated....well you all get the idea. I found great comfort in these words. I was reminded that lately the reason things have been getting to me is because I have not fixed my gaze on Christ-my awareness of his presence "falters and flickers" and as a result the saying "I try to take one day at a time, but lately several days have attacked me at once" becomes my reality. I have never been a huge fan of constantly unstable conditions or situations-I'm a slight control freak....ok....I am a MAJOR control freak. When I read this though, I am reminded that life would be a little bit easier if I would just fix my eyes on what is important, that if I just kept Christ with me in all of my moments-things wouldn't be attacking me and dragging me down.
So today as the storm rages outside, the snow piles up, and prayers across the campus are sent up that MNU miraculously will cancel class for a 2nd day in a row, I am comforted with the reminder that even when my faith falters and flickers.....HE is always aware of me and I will always be able to experience HIM.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 2
Chapter 11-Maintain an Appropriate Span of Care-the chapter was about the need to delegate. It's very important to do so that you don't get burned out! Give your team the care that they need (TIME).
Chapter 12-Put a Couch in Your Women's Restroom-this chapter talked about designing your building according to the needs/culture of your church.
Chapter 13-Find Administrators With a Touch of "Artist" in Them-the chapter talked about having someone in each key position in your church that is an "artist". Someone who enjoys change and is able to come up with creative and appropriate programs that will help your church move in the direction you want.
Chapter 14-Keep Influencers in the Look With the Inside Scoop-Find your "influencer". They are a key link to successful programs because they think of things you don't!
Chapter 15-Never Launch a Ministry Without a Leader-Identify your "ministry" leader before you start new ministries. This will help your ministry focus on the "primary purpose" and be able to meet it's full potential.
Chapter 16-Don't Be Afraid to Bring in the Hired Guns-Don't be afraid to bring someone in who is a non-biased opinion! Don't expect them to rearrange your reality for you-but know that they could provide some fresh insight!
Chapter 17-Without Systems, All Decisions Rise to the Top-Make sure that your church has certain systems that decisions go thru. By doing this it will help your church continue to grow in the direction of your goals. Some examples that they used were staff handbooks, guidelines, facility schedules, etc.
Chapter 18-Buy the Farm....the Entire Farm-Buy land....accept the land....whatever you get-get all of it. That way when the time comes you have it to build on or have it to sell to help build onto the dreams for the future.
Chapter 19-Staff Ahead of the Growth-The chapter was pretty self-explanatory. You don't have to actually pay someone to staff for your needs-growing or soon to be-they could be volunteer. Either way-this will help your ministry multiply and will help you avoid a nice big headache!
Chapter 20-Be.Clear.Be.Specific.Write it Down-Identify what role each of your staff members plays in the life of your church. If you clearly write down expectations your staff will not only know exactly what needs to be done but it will help them to "soar".
I have enjoyed seeing the practice of "writing it down" into play in a certain church that I go to occasionally and have the privilege of knowing it's leaders. I have observed that before each staff member knew what needed to be done in their specific area-some of them would show up and play on Facebook all day while others would-well-just not show up. It seemed as though the minute there were job descriptions set before each individual the work not only got done, but the staff was more motivated and slowly became more of team players with each other. This is one aspect of ministry that I will implement if I ever have people who work with me that I have the privilege to lead. Knowing what needs to be done gets the job done and helps to form dreams and goals for the future.
Chapter 12-Put a Couch in Your Women's Restroom-this chapter talked about designing your building according to the needs/culture of your church.
Chapter 13-Find Administrators With a Touch of "Artist" in Them-the chapter talked about having someone in each key position in your church that is an "artist". Someone who enjoys change and is able to come up with creative and appropriate programs that will help your church move in the direction you want.
Chapter 14-Keep Influencers in the Look With the Inside Scoop-Find your "influencer". They are a key link to successful programs because they think of things you don't!
Chapter 15-Never Launch a Ministry Without a Leader-Identify your "ministry" leader before you start new ministries. This will help your ministry focus on the "primary purpose" and be able to meet it's full potential.
Chapter 16-Don't Be Afraid to Bring in the Hired Guns-Don't be afraid to bring someone in who is a non-biased opinion! Don't expect them to rearrange your reality for you-but know that they could provide some fresh insight!
Chapter 17-Without Systems, All Decisions Rise to the Top-Make sure that your church has certain systems that decisions go thru. By doing this it will help your church continue to grow in the direction of your goals. Some examples that they used were staff handbooks, guidelines, facility schedules, etc.
Chapter 18-Buy the Farm....the Entire Farm-Buy land....accept the land....whatever you get-get all of it. That way when the time comes you have it to build on or have it to sell to help build onto the dreams for the future.
Chapter 19-Staff Ahead of the Growth-The chapter was pretty self-explanatory. You don't have to actually pay someone to staff for your needs-growing or soon to be-they could be volunteer. Either way-this will help your ministry multiply and will help you avoid a nice big headache!
Chapter 20-Be.Clear.Be.Specific.Write it Down-Identify what role each of your staff members plays in the life of your church. If you clearly write down expectations your staff will not only know exactly what needs to be done but it will help them to "soar".
I have enjoyed seeing the practice of "writing it down" into play in a certain church that I go to occasionally and have the privilege of knowing it's leaders. I have observed that before each staff member knew what needed to be done in their specific area-some of them would show up and play on Facebook all day while others would-well-just not show up. It seemed as though the minute there were job descriptions set before each individual the work not only got done, but the staff was more motivated and slowly became more of team players with each other. This is one aspect of ministry that I will implement if I ever have people who work with me that I have the privilege to lead. Knowing what needs to be done gets the job done and helps to form dreams and goals for the future.
Furious
Lately I feel like frustrations have been piling me up and eating me alive. Everything has been making me angry-and I mean angry. I have an opinion about everything and they are not very nicely stated. I feel like even though me and my group of friends are in our early 20's, people have been treating us like we are five years old. I am SO sick of all of the crap that is going on at our school with people, administration, and other circumstances. I am beyond angry at a couple people for the way they treat me and the way that they act. I hate living at the school-it's not what I thought it would be like and it has turned into more of a headache than anything and I REALLY can't wait to move into my apartment and get out of this mess.
I have prayed hard for patience. I've tried to calm down. I have even tried to let things not bother me. But it just seems like everything is attacking me and no matter what I try to do it's still kicking my butt and I am so angry.
I need a break from all of this-break from people-break from school. I just need to cry.
God-please help me calm down. To relax.....and to know that it is going to be ok.
I have prayed hard for patience. I've tried to calm down. I have even tried to let things not bother me. But it just seems like everything is attacking me and no matter what I try to do it's still kicking my butt and I am so angry.
I need a break from all of this-break from people-break from school. I just need to cry.
God-please help me calm down. To relax.....and to know that it is going to be ok.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Simply Strategic Stuff part 1
Chapter 1- Fuel the Pioneering Spirit- the author talks about how important it is to keep momentum going in the life of your church so that it can keep moving forward.
Chapter 2- Good Leaders Let Good People Go- this chapter discusses the issue of letting other leaders in the church go due to different circumstances no matter how difficult it can be. It is an overall better decision for the church, the individual, or both.
Chapter 3-Count the Cost Before Hiring a Family Member-the issue of hiring family members, having them work together, and/or making the decision to reprimand them or let them go from their job was discussed. The author gave 2 specific guidelines to follow when having family members work together.
Chapter 4-Flexibility is a Higher Value than "Flashy"-chapter 4 discusses the importance of having "flexible" facilities instead of "flashy" ones. By being more flexible it allows great things to happen in the life of the church.
Chapter 5-If It Feels Good, Check the Data-in this chapter the author tells us that just because your emotions tell you something is good-it doesn't mean that it actually is. Remember: measure outcomes, monitor cycles, and pay attention to balance.
Chapter 6-Don't Spend Your Life With Your Critics-chapter 6 went over that "answering every criticism and explaining every questioned action will wear you out." Let people say what they want-but know whose words to take to heart and whose words to just ignore.
Chapter 7-Get Geeked About Gadgets- chapter 7 discusses the importance of technology and its positive effects on your ministry as well as helping you and your staff make better use of your time!
Chapter 8-If Someone Hasn't Left Your Church Recently, Your Vision Is Probably Too Broad-The author states that it is ok when people leave your church-it means that your church isn't meeting their specific needs-remember 3 things: 1)Start very focused 2) Do a few things well 3) Add slowly.
Chapter 9-Work Yourself Out of a Job-One simple statement: "Keep the tasks that add the most value, and give everything else away." Churches have lay people who are just as talented as you! In fact, they may even be better at something than you. Give them the jobs and focus on the other tasks at hand!
Chapter 10-Visit Other Churches and Steal Their Stuff-The author talks about visiting other churches that are strong in the areas that your church is weak. If it works for them-perhaps it will work for you! Make it your own, but use their foundation.
I have lived in a pastor's home my entire life, and over the years I have seen my parents do (what I believe) a great job of having "momentum building" campaigns. One of the examples that I have become very fond of happened two years ago at my parents current assignment. For several months the church had a spike in attendance of families with children and the need became great to open updated facilities to help accommodate the growing need. My parents visited a church a couple hours away who has a killer children's program as well as incredibly facilities. They took some of the ideas-technology, design, set up, etc-and modified it to meet the needs of our church. They also got several lay people and new families involved and excited. This helped to make connections but to also get the word out and make people excited about the new changes that were taking place. They now run a very successful children's ministry and have been able to add onto their facility!
Chapter 2- Good Leaders Let Good People Go- this chapter discusses the issue of letting other leaders in the church go due to different circumstances no matter how difficult it can be. It is an overall better decision for the church, the individual, or both.
Chapter 3-Count the Cost Before Hiring a Family Member-the issue of hiring family members, having them work together, and/or making the decision to reprimand them or let them go from their job was discussed. The author gave 2 specific guidelines to follow when having family members work together.
Chapter 4-Flexibility is a Higher Value than "Flashy"-chapter 4 discusses the importance of having "flexible" facilities instead of "flashy" ones. By being more flexible it allows great things to happen in the life of the church.
Chapter 5-If It Feels Good, Check the Data-in this chapter the author tells us that just because your emotions tell you something is good-it doesn't mean that it actually is. Remember: measure outcomes, monitor cycles, and pay attention to balance.
Chapter 6-Don't Spend Your Life With Your Critics-chapter 6 went over that "answering every criticism and explaining every questioned action will wear you out." Let people say what they want-but know whose words to take to heart and whose words to just ignore.
Chapter 7-Get Geeked About Gadgets- chapter 7 discusses the importance of technology and its positive effects on your ministry as well as helping you and your staff make better use of your time!
Chapter 8-If Someone Hasn't Left Your Church Recently, Your Vision Is Probably Too Broad-The author states that it is ok when people leave your church-it means that your church isn't meeting their specific needs-remember 3 things: 1)Start very focused 2) Do a few things well 3) Add slowly.
Chapter 9-Work Yourself Out of a Job-One simple statement: "Keep the tasks that add the most value, and give everything else away." Churches have lay people who are just as talented as you! In fact, they may even be better at something than you. Give them the jobs and focus on the other tasks at hand!
Chapter 10-Visit Other Churches and Steal Their Stuff-The author talks about visiting other churches that are strong in the areas that your church is weak. If it works for them-perhaps it will work for you! Make it your own, but use their foundation.
I have lived in a pastor's home my entire life, and over the years I have seen my parents do (what I believe) a great job of having "momentum building" campaigns. One of the examples that I have become very fond of happened two years ago at my parents current assignment. For several months the church had a spike in attendance of families with children and the need became great to open updated facilities to help accommodate the growing need. My parents visited a church a couple hours away who has a killer children's program as well as incredibly facilities. They took some of the ideas-technology, design, set up, etc-and modified it to meet the needs of our church. They also got several lay people and new families involved and excited. This helped to make connections but to also get the word out and make people excited about the new changes that were taking place. They now run a very successful children's ministry and have been able to add onto their facility!
Monday, January 24, 2011
Irritating
Lately I have become really overwhelmed and annoyed with people. Honestly-it's been worse than normal. I've been trying to take deep breaths and step back-trying to factor in every possible thing that may be contributing to my irritated mood.
However-there have been a couple things lately that I really can't find an excuse for.
I have been really struggling with people and their attitudes and actions lately. I have been astonished....no....disgusted- at the actions that certain people in my world have displayed. For the life of me I have not been able to figure out why the below the belt jabs, the rude comments, the comparing, and the hatred are apart of their daily life. It makes me sick. How can these people live with themselves?
I hate the fact that I have started to become to resentful and disgusted with people lately. That isn't me-I'm usually a very compassionate, loving, caring person. But lately all I want to do is call these people and rip them a new one. Tell them how incredibly stupid they are and how much I hate them.
Then...of course....a voice pops into my head and I am forced to take a deep breath and take a step back.
Perhaps I am the only "Jesus" that is in these people's lives. Or perhaps-these people are so unhappy with their lives that they find it necessary to be hateful to others. Either way-here is my prayer.....
God-
Give me the strength to keep my mouth shut. To not punch these stupid people in the face. To smile and nod and not respond to their hateful comments and actions. I also ask that you are with them in their daily lives and that you bring people into their path that show them true love. And above all-bless them.....no matter how irritating they are.
Amen
However-there have been a couple things lately that I really can't find an excuse for.
I have been really struggling with people and their attitudes and actions lately. I have been astonished....no....disgusted- at the actions that certain people in my world have displayed. For the life of me I have not been able to figure out why the below the belt jabs, the rude comments, the comparing, and the hatred are apart of their daily life. It makes me sick. How can these people live with themselves?
I hate the fact that I have started to become to resentful and disgusted with people lately. That isn't me-I'm usually a very compassionate, loving, caring person. But lately all I want to do is call these people and rip them a new one. Tell them how incredibly stupid they are and how much I hate them.
Then...of course....a voice pops into my head and I am forced to take a deep breath and take a step back.
Perhaps I am the only "Jesus" that is in these people's lives. Or perhaps-these people are so unhappy with their lives that they find it necessary to be hateful to others. Either way-here is my prayer.....
God-
Give me the strength to keep my mouth shut. To not punch these stupid people in the face. To smile and nod and not respond to their hateful comments and actions. I also ask that you are with them in their daily lives and that you bring people into their path that show them true love. And above all-bless them.....no matter how irritating they are.
Amen
Monday, January 17, 2011
This stuff is for the birds!
I HATE WEDDING PLANNING!
No...like really. I HATE it. I hate picking out colors, songs, fabrics, cake, punch, all of it! And don't even get me started on the stupid honeymoon!
I'm not sure what delusion I was under as a little girl when I thought that this all was fun, but it was SO wrong! I literally wish right now that I could just elope and get all of this over with. I just want to curl up and cry and throw my hands up.
This day is supposed to be fun and a day to remember and it's turning out to be the biggest nightmare....EVER.
I know that all of you are probably thinking that I am awful and that I am some kind of ungrateful jerk. But this is all just too overwhelming and I just want the whole ever after thing....now and not in 157 days.
No...like really. I HATE it. I hate picking out colors, songs, fabrics, cake, punch, all of it! And don't even get me started on the stupid honeymoon!
I'm not sure what delusion I was under as a little girl when I thought that this all was fun, but it was SO wrong! I literally wish right now that I could just elope and get all of this over with. I just want to curl up and cry and throw my hands up.
This day is supposed to be fun and a day to remember and it's turning out to be the biggest nightmare....EVER.
I know that all of you are probably thinking that I am awful and that I am some kind of ungrateful jerk. But this is all just too overwhelming and I just want the whole ever after thing....now and not in 157 days.
Sunday, January 2, 2011
2011
As I sat in a dark room that was softly lit by the glow of the Chirstmas tree my mind went back through all of the memories-good and bad-that 2010 brought to me. There was laughter, tears, joy, anguish, and sorrow but through it all there was an ever present and constant peace that was with me.
It seems so strange to think that yet another year has passed us by and all too quickly might I add. However, the thought of the things to come in 2011 make me excited to see the new adventures and to learn the new lessons.
Life has a way of flying past us so this year I encourage you to soak up the moments. Laugh loud, love hard, cry when you must, and live to the fullest.
Happy New Year everyone and may you know the peace that passes all understanding.
It seems so strange to think that yet another year has passed us by and all too quickly might I add. However, the thought of the things to come in 2011 make me excited to see the new adventures and to learn the new lessons.
Life has a way of flying past us so this year I encourage you to soak up the moments. Laugh loud, love hard, cry when you must, and live to the fullest.
Happy New Year everyone and may you know the peace that passes all understanding.
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